Recently I came across an article which referred to the distinct stripe patterns on Zebra. There was something quite interesting that caught my eye. It mentioned that these patterns are so unique that no zebra carries similar stripes with other. Every zebra has its own unique pattern of black and white (or brown and white) stripes though it resembles one another.
Well, in the same way, human personality is a various combination of characteristics and qualities that define individual’s distinctive nature. Personality is usually described as a set of psychological characteristics that lead one to behave in meaningfully consistent ways. And different types of personality in some way actually affect our roles as parents in the parenting world. This is the focus of the article today.
Each person has his own parenting strengths and weaknesses. And parenting styles either positive or negative results in the healthy or unhealthy behavior of the child. It’s the parenting decisions acts as a guide to a child’s overall growth.
A child can grow as an emotionally stable individual if the parents have the ability or have demonstrated the child how to manage and express their feelings. Parents cannot be indifferent and critical every time to the kid’s negative sentiments. If parents can demonstrate them how to appropriately express and regulate the response to cope with stress, anger and sadness like emotions, the child can be more equipped to handle such situations as they grow up. If not then the typical neglecting or hostile parenting may cause behavioral problems in the child later.
Let’s see how our own personality affects our parenting style.
Imagine a parent male or female has a very authoritarian personality. The person is strict by nature and therefore pushes for discipline and compliance to set rules all the time. The very foundation of the rules of why and how the rules are set up is never discussed but instead, a child is expected to obey and follow the rules. If not then punishment is the only outcome.
What according to you would you expect a child to respond as he grows?
Imagine a changed scenario when the same parent who is strict now allows the child to question the very foundation of such rules. They don’t just provide the logical explanations for such guidelines but are also less harsh to their child if they don’t meet the desired results or expectations.
Wouldn’t the scenario be different and in turn the behavior of the child be different as they grow?
Let us consider a third scenario where the parent is little mellowed down and treat the child more like a friend. The discipline and compliance intensity is less and as a result, there is no strict requirement for the child to be compliant and therefore is less controlled. The parent is more focused and hovering around the nurturing mode without putting on more demands to the child or making him feel more responsible.
What would be the response from the child for such parental style?
Let us consider another parental style which is considered unresponsive. Here the parent is involved to the extent of providing and catering to only the essential needs but is completely disconnected in fulfilling emotional needs. The parent makes little or absolutely no demand on the child and has limited communication with the child.
How according to you the child would behave during his growth years?
Well, it is not as difficult to answer the above questions anticipating a child’s behavior in a given scenario but what is more difficult is to figure out is which parenting personality you fall under or would like to be into most of the time.
Additionally Both parents being on same page with respect to parenting approach also plays a very important role and merely one parent cannot be held responsible for the parenting outcomes…. we will talk on this some time later in detail.
If you as a parent would like to know what is your dominant parenting style then there are various tools to understand them. Tools like Psychometric assessments or DOPE tests are available . DOPE (Dove, Owl, Peacock, Eagle) bird personality test explains us more about ourselves in terms of basic personality attributes, thought processes, approach to daily life , controlling factors and other characteristics. Each bird personality type has both positive and negative traits. It has a different way of handling association with others, sentiments revolved around them, the effectiveness of communication, and different conflict resolution techniques used. All the above Plays a Vital role in your Parenting journey ..
One thing is for sure. Parenting is not just about changing diapers or screaming at kids when they make mistakes or love them when they are innocent. It is more about how we significantly influence our child’s overall development by providing necessary support when required and also be demanding when the need arises. Remember, parenting can be considered as a coin with joy and frustrations as its two sides. And humans are not lucky to have joy side every time at their side and stride.
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